To the 2nd man that tried to rape my daughter

My daughter was a happy, carefree, beautiful and loving 12 year old little girl. You found her on Snapchat. You hid behind lies and deceit. You taught her things a 12 year old should never know. You asked for disgusting and compromising pictures and videos of her over and over despite her telling you no. Things such as masturbating with her hairbrush and the list could go on for miles. You convinced her that you loved her and cared for her more than anyone in the world.

You sent her disgustingly horrible videos and pictures and when she wouldn’t comply with your wishes you would tell her about your other girlfriends. Your mind games were endless. She believed you were a teen. She believed everything that you said. Why would she believe any different? She was naive and innocent to your cruel and evil intentions.

When I discovered your communication I immediately started doing background work on you. You were easy to find even with your lies. I had a face to face discussion with you on a Snapchat call where you also tried to lie to me. You begged me to not go to the police and swore yes you had lied about your age you were not 15 but you were only 17. I told you right then and there I was going to the police regardless. I already knew your lies.

With your perverse and sinister nature you didn’t care. Within days you were again reaching out to talk to her. This time offering her and her friend money to have sex with you. You traveled to take my daughter from her home and video sexual acts with her and her friend within a week of my conversation with you. They had literally just turned 13 and you not only wanted to take them from their homes and give them money for videoing sex with them you traveled around 5 hours to do so.

You have no conscience. You didn’t care about their well-being mentally or physically. You knew the dangers and your perverse mentality was reckless without any concern for my daughters life.

She has been in therapy for over a year now. She was on suicide watch for months. She went from a happy innocent girl to a child that began to hate herself. I could see something had changed but couldn’t find the issue for a couple of months due to Snapchat’s setup. Once I found you though it was days, weeks and months of dealing with local, state and federal law enforcement. My 13 year old daughter, your victim, lost so many newly sought after teenage freedoms because we were scared to death to let her out of our sight. She was not allowed to go to friend’s houses for sleepovers and she wasn’t even allowed to talk or texts friends for the past year unless she sat beside of us for fear another evil man was after her. Her grades bottomed out and she switched schools 3 times. I couldn’t go back to work and my own panic attacks set in. I struggled to stay in nursing school and graduate. My youngest daughter struggled so much with what has happened to her sister she too now has severe anxiety and depression. She is also in therapy and starting to now have panic attacks. She trusts no one. It has affected our family as a whole.

You are a man who took advantage of my child and preyed on her innocence and did so with malice. The simple fact that you completely disregarded that I was going to the police and continued to send messages and videos and ask for them in return over and over and then tried to pick her up and give her money for sex knowing her age at 12 and 13 clearly shows that there is no place for you in society. You will continue to be a danger to young girls everywhere at all times with freedom.

I ask the court on behalf of my daughter and my family to please punish him to the fullest extent allowable. We ask for this to save other young girls and their families from this destruction. Children deserve to have protection. They deserve to have an innocence and for it to not be taken by a sick and twisted perverse adult that knows better. An adult that doesn’t care about the law or the harm they cause to young children. An adult that is willing to travel for hours to satisfy his sick desires. He has proven to be one of those people.

A letter to her rapist

My daughter began to change. At first it was wanting privacy I believed it to be normal teenage angst. Then the attitudes set in which seemed off putting but it increasingly got worse along with the anger. I randomly went through her phone but could not find anything out of place. I dug thru her social media, texts and calls and always came up empty handed. Until the day I had her phone and she received a message on snapchat which asked if she would be at her dads soon so they could hook up. I knew something was severely wrong at this point. After many meetings with local and state police, the FBI as well as US Marshalls the pieces started to fall together. The rape and molestation of my daughter was uncovered.

This man deceived my child. He made up a name and said he was a teenager. My daughter was 12 years old at the time they started to talk. He was very aware of her age. He told her he loved her more than anyone. He lied to and manipulated her.

On her 13th birthday, he drove to her fathers house and again via snapchat let her know he was there to give her a birthday present of $50. Instead of the $50 he told her she was a big girl now while he began to take off her clothes and despite her telling him no he proceeded to molest and rape my child.

You were bigger and stronger than my little girl. She was so scared she told you no but knew you would overpower her and maybe even hurt or kill her at that point. You not only took her virginity but you took her sense of security. She was too young and naive to realize there was an evil human waiting to exploit her for their own sick sexual gratification.

She ended up having severe anxiety and depression. I had to hide all of the knives and medications in the home. I sat up day and night listening and watching her making sure she was ok for months on end. To this day I dont rest well for worry about her safety and security. My daughter will have to continue to have testing for sexually transmitted diseases for years to come because of you.

She again just had her birthday. She had finally turned a corner thanks to intensive therapy. That was until her birth month came. That’s when the anxiety and depression hit again. It was a reminder of what you had done to her and everything that she lost. It was a reminder for our whole family.

She didn’t just relive it that day. She has nightmares often. I have seen the fear in her eyes when she sees vehicles that look like the ones you drove to rape her or when she sees someone that looks or sounds like you. She knows you are incarcerated but she has to remind herself that during those times. Even then it takes a while for her to calm down.

You didn’t just take her virginity you took a part of her life forever. You took my happy, loving, sweet and innocent girl and destroyed her temporarily.

I say temporarily because she is the strongest, bravest and most resilient girl I know. In a years time she has picked herself up and finally started to begin live again. She finally goes out of the house without that look of anxiety and fear.

She has lost so much by your hands. I nearly had to quit nursing school. I also too went thru a horrible period of depression and anxiety along with major panic attacks because I was unable to find your trail and stop you from destroying my daughter and my family’s lives. My youngest daughter had to also go into therapy and now also has panic attacks often.

The world is not safe with you in it. You have done this to girls and women of all ages. You had a wife and a family. You have destroyed every single one of those people. You knew to use Snapchat you knew it wouldn’t be traced as long as your victims didn’t save anything. Without that there was no proof you even existed. You methodically chose the weakest of the weak. You exploited those weaknesses to make you look better, richer, more loving and more caring. You understood every move you made. You have no sympathy not even for your own child who one day will be faced with the challenges of dodging perverse adult men and women just like yourself.

I ask the courts for the safety of other females of all ages to give this man the maximum sentence allowed by law. Help to save children that would be in harms way if this man were out on the streets. There is no age at which individuals such as him are safely integrated into society.

Impact statements

I have my new BSN-MSN classes starting tomorrow. I’m scared and traumatized from nursing school. I’m worried I jumped in too soon. I bought a car this eve without even actually seeing it hahaha bought smart though. Not sure my husband will agree he was asleep lol.

With school, a new job, and my kids on my mind I still have the weight of the world on me with these impact statements to the courts. For starters federal court is intimidating. Second facing these nasty horrible individuals who took my daughters youth and innocence away how do you even approach that?

How do you tell them they shattered our whole families world. The time we had to spend and still spend in therapy. The anxiety that we all have. The fear I face daily about her security and well being.

Her birthday is coming up… It should be a time of celebration and gifts. But for her it is a painful reminder of the night she was raped. Every birthday will be a reminder for the rest of her life. What can you do about that?

How do you covey the pain they caused and damage that will always be there? How do you not break down into tears of anger and pain? How do I not have the most horrible anxiety attack when looking each of them in the eyes? It had to be done. I have to go and stand up for my child and my family who was all affected. Will it ever end? The impact will last a lifetime.

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