So I made it thru day 1. My husband went to Pittsburgh and I didn’t get an official start on day 2. I did, however, continue with the no negativity. The day he was to return home I looked at my bank account that was completely drained until Thursdays paycheck. I was sad and angry. He took another month to not help me pay bills. I knew my niceness had worn off.
I was determined to confront the situation but had full intentions on continuing to keep my negative behavior out of it as much as possible. I let him know I was stressed and why to which he responded by telling me I had told him to move out and I had talked to another man. Guess that means you don’t have to pay bills. Even with that he’s broke. No money. Or so he claims. Which is fine I knew how he would respond.
Yesterday was his birthday. I returned the favor he did for my birthday and did and said nothing…. Actually, I let him live free for another month I figure that is a sufficient gift for a man of his caliber.
I sent him a message in the early A.M. to which I woke with the response I expected. Him claiming his innocence and being the victim. Poor boy. I feel so sorry for him his wife said she was getting a divorce to another man that she talked to after he chose to go to a woman’s house and lied for months. A woman that I have cried over for three years. It’s ok though…
I am strong and numb. Great mix for waking up to reality. In these moments I realize that I am worth more than this. That the person that I need to dare to love is myself. I need to expect and not settle for less than half as a bar to reach for anyone in my life. I’m worth so much more and yet I will take any crumb someone throws my way.
Today no fights no anger. I want to remain graceful and calm. I want to focus on the one person I have neglected for 23 years now. I want to begin to embrace her and love her the way she deserves to be loved. That means not making my feelings negotiable.
I no longer accept less than I want at my expense. I am willing to make tough choices and follow thru with them to enrich my life. I’m done with excuses and the fix it all for everyone else attitude. Today I choose me.